Ten Ways You Know…Vacuum edition


10 ways you know it has been too long since you last vacuumed


10. You have more pet hair on the floor than carpet.

9. You have a strong suspicion you may have lost a pet under the pet hair.

8. Your toddler points to the floor and says “EW!”

7. Your toddlers don’t know what a vacuum is.

6. You’re not sure you know how to work your vacuum. You’ve owned it for over a year.

5. Your bagless vacuum has to be emptied twice. In one vacuum session.  In one room.

4. You find a toddler spoon you’ve been missing. It was in plain sight on the floor.  You couldn’t see it under the pet hair.

3. Your pets go into traumatic shock and might have to be treated for PTSD when you do vacuum.

2. Your toddlers scream like they are being hunted by the vacuum.

1. Your third grader comes into the room after you have vacuumed and says “What happened in here?!?!”


March 12, 2012


Aaron Burr, Sir


Like much of the live theatre loving population of the country, I have become captivated with the Broadway phenomenon Hamilton.  I have not yet been blessed enough to get to see it.  I have, however, purchased – and memorized large parts of – the unbelievably amazing soundtrack and am currently reading Mr. Chernow’s book that Mr. Miranda based the musical on.

I have become increasingly intrigued by the character of Aaron Burr and his motivations.  Mr. Burr served eventually as a senator of New York and Vice President of the United States under President Thomas Jefferson.  However, deep inside, I believe he was an insecure and fearful little boy.

We know Aaron Burr was orphaned at a young age.  He was raised by an uncle.  In the soundtrack to Hamilton, Burr is described as completing his education at a record pace to fulfill the wish of his deceased parents.  He is very motivated by the desire to maintain the legacy his parents began.  I believe that Burr’s biggest flaw is being an extreme people pleaser.  In the soundtrack, he offers the advice to Hamilton on several occasions, “Talk less; smile more.  Don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for.”  Deep inside he was missing the praise and encouragement most of us receive from a relationship with our parents.  Since he lost that opportunity, he looked for it from other people he saw as important.

We see him looking for the approval from George Washington both on the battlefield and in politics.   He seeks out a secretary position in Washington’s cabinet, which he does not receive.  He seeks out approval from the people of New York, by actively campaigning door to door for the senator position, which he earns.  He seeks out approval from the people of the United States by running for the position of President, which he did not receive.

As a people pleaser myself, I can understand a little of what Burr seemed to be enduring.  While I had a good relationship with my parents growing up, like Burr, I always felt I was second place to others around me.  I never had the opportunity to shine like friends did.  I remember a conversation with my mother about a part I was auditioning for in my high school drama department.  I was auditioning for a lead part.  My mother told me to pursue my dream, but to keep in mind that I was “not leading lady material.”  While I now understand her statement, at the time it crushed me.  I thought that even my own mother did not believe in me.  When I, in fact, did not receive the part I was auditioning for, but once again got the part of the comic relief, I decided I was always going to be second place, if I was lucky.

In my adulthood this has continued.  I still find myself longing to shine.  However, I have learned that instead of looking to be the best, I need to look to find God’s purpose for my life.  Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.” (ESV) While I may never shine by the world’s standards, I need to fulfill my purpose and shine in my own life and mind.

I can’t help but wonder what Aaron Burr could have accomplished if he had looked for his purpose rather than his next spotlight.  What was his true purpose?

We have to each make the decision if we will search out glory by the world’s standards or if we will look to God and allow Him to tell us what His purpose is for us.  Will we be like Burr and Hamilton and leave people wondering what we could have done if we had only been given more time, or will we use every day to the best of not our abilities, but His?


Dear Joey,


The summer before I began the third grade, I attended my first camp with my church youth group.  I remember being terrified as we left the church.  I had never spent that many days away from home.

Little did I know, that camp visit would begin my deep history with Woodland Christian Camp.  I attended as a camper each summer until I was sixteen.  At sixteen I met a young man whose father volunteered as a camp dean each summer for the third and fourth graders – the same age I was when I first attended!  I volunteered.  For the next two years I would serve as a camper and a counselor, on different weeks!  Once I graduated from high school I would serve as a counselor for at least one week of camp each summer.

Once my mother passed away and I began teaching full time, I put what was intended to be a temporary pause on my camp counselor service.  However, summer jobs, marriage and children happened and before I knew it, it had been sixteen years since I was on the land I loved so much.

Last September, something woke me early on a Sunday morning.  A casual Facebook scroll ended with a cold grip on my heart.  The precious camp dean I served for so long and loved even longer, Joey, had passed away.  Suddenly it came crashing in on me just how I had neglected the land and people who had meant so much to me.  Joey had always seen the good in me.  He listened to me as I thought through some tough teenage decisions.  He had loved me as a kind uncle through times when I struggled to love even myself.  He had reached out to me when he heard my mother had passed away.  What had I done to thank him?  Nothing.

Over this past week, Joey and his family had been laid upon my heart repeatedly, even showing up in my dreams.  Once more, I was awakened early on a Sunday morning.  Once again a Facebook scroll gripped me.  This was the week of camp that Joey had always served as dean.  Two dear friends who had served with Joey and I were heading it up.  One was Joey’s son, Jason.  I finally knew how to thank Joey.

Yesterday my husband and I took our three children to Woodland.  I introduced them to old friends.  Watching my children talk with Jason, who looks just like his father, felt like the completion of a journey I had not realized was unfinished.  We walked through the buildings where I spent so many happy days.  I introduced them to Joey through a picture Jason had posted in the main mess hall.  We sat on the deck with a view of the lake where I had many a deep discussion with Joey.  We walked down to the lake and sat on the dock where I remember dreaming of my future.  Somehow my dreams did not include sitting there with my children.  It was surreal, but wonderful.

Joey taught me one more lesson yesterday.  I stood by the lake alone for a few minutes, saying my good-bye to Joey and remembering all the dreams I had during my teenage years.  I realized that I wasn’t living many of them at all.  My husband was only a friend during those years.  I never imagined being married to him and sharing children.  I am a teacher as planned, but teaching is not what I imagined.  Adulting is not what I imagined.  But what I have is …. perfect for me.  I couldn’t imagine a husband who understands me better.  He is patient when I need it and challenges my thinking to make me look at situations from various angles – much like Joey.  My career is my mission field and has taught me that with God I can go farther than I ever could alone – as Joey told me He would.

Joey taught me that while I may not be living exactly my teenage dreams, I am living God’s dreams for me, and He dreams so much bigger than we can.

Dear Joey,

Thank you for everything you gave to me growing up – most importantly, a listening ear when I needed it.  Thank you for modeling faith in God, even in the face of difficult circumstances.  I hope I have made you proud.  Enjoy your reward.  There aren’t many who deserve it more than you.

Love always,



Bad Mom


Today I feel like a bad mom.  The dishes aren’t done.  The laundry isn’t folded.  Dinner came out of a box and was simply warmed up in the oven.  My youngest didn’t get a bath.  The dog ran out of food during the day.  The cat is drinking out of the toilet bowl.  My husband’s work pants are wrinkled.  Homework isn’t finished.  Lunches aren’t packed for tomorrow.  Clothes aren’t chosen.  Shoes aren’t laid out.

By all worldly standards I am a failure as a mom and wife.

However, we ate on clean dishes.  The laundry is clean.  We had food for dinner.  My youngest doesn’t stink and will get a bath tomorrow.  The dog has food in the pantry.  The cat has clean water in the toilet bowl to drink.  My husband has work to wear wrinkled pants to.  Homework will still be there tomorrow.  The kids can eat lunch at school.  There are clothes to choose.  There are multiple pairs of shoes to choose from.

What did happen is that my family sat down to dinner together.  We talked about our day.  We laughed.  We argued.  We may have even cried a little.  I snuggled with the littles in my bed to read while the big and my husband chatted in the living room.  We all said prayers together and gave hugs and kisses while tucking in the littles.

What matters is that my children are clean, fed, clothed and loved.  And they know they are loved.  They are safe and sleep in security and warmth.  They know they can come hide in our bed when there is a storm.  They know that we will kiss boo boos and love broken hearts.  They know we love them when they bring home good behavior notes and also when they bring home the not so good.

What matters is that my children are learning about God.  They know they are loved by their Creator.  They are learning to love Him and follow His ways.

The dishes and laundry can wait.  It can all wait.  It’s not what matters.



 “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart.  You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.  You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.”   Deuteronomy 6:4-9 (ESV)

In Defense of Teachers


Last weekend I was having my taxes filed with my favorite lady. She has done my taxes for 15 years. A couple and their young teenage son were in the next cubicle and were speaking very unfavorably about the son’s school and its teachers. (Those 5 foot tall dividers are not sound proof.) My tax lady looked at me and grinned. She could see me biting my tongue. I decided to give my tongue a break and instead speak out in defense of my co-workers worldwide that are in public and private classrooms all day long. Let me tell you what I have seen in my 20 years of being on the other side of the teacher’s desk.
I have seen a teacher with a desk drawer full of 3rd grade boy’s clothes. A student in her class has to get himself up, dressed and on the bus each morning. That often involves wearing whatever clothes he can find – often the ones he wore yesterday. This teacher allows him into her classroom early so he can get a clean clothes and change in the bathroom before his classmates notice.
I have seen more teachers than I can count with drawers of snacks and food to feed those students who do not get enough.
I have seen teachers giving up personal time to attend plays, debates, competitions, games and concerts featuring their students to show them that that are important and they are valuable.
I have seen an assistant principal literally in tears over the situation a student was enduring at home.
I have seen a principal on his knees next to a little one who was refusing to eat. The principal, in his dress pants and tie, sat on the floor and talked to the little boy until he was distracted enough to eat without even realizing it.
I have seen teachers take time off of work to attend a student’s father’s funeral.
I have seen teachers give money, food, time, and care baskets to a student’s family when the student was enduring cancer treatments.
I have seen a school counselor desperately trying to find someone who would provide much needed glasses for a student at little to no cost.
I have seen teachers rush to a student’s hospital bed in the middle of the night.
Educators have come under an increasing number of attacks in the past few years.

Everyone has an opinion on what teachers should or should not be doing without knowing the details of what is required of us each day. The facts I have listed are NOT required. They are men and women going above and beyond each and every day of each and every school year.

Christmas memory


I am missing my mother more than usual tonight.  Maybe it is the rain that makes it feel like I live in Seattle instead of Atlanta.  Maybe it is simply the fact that it is the evening before Christmas Eve.  Momma loved Christmas.  Despite the reason, I thought I would share a story I had published about my mother.  It was published in a book called Christmas in the Country a few years ago.

Christmas In Momma’s Kitchen
Aletheia D. Lee

On. Off. On. Off. I sat at the foot of our artificial Christmas tree watching the colored lights blink. I loved everything about Christmas: the lights, the music, the smells, and the smiles. Momma always decorated the house until it looked like Santa himself might live there.
Tonight, however, I was a little melancholy. I sat by the tree with only the colored tree lights to brighten the room and a mug of hot chocolate. Karen Carpenter was on Momma’s stereo singing “Merry Christmas, Darling” and I was wrapped in an oversized blanket. It was Christmas Eve and I was thinking of a boy. I was sixteen and just beginning to think of dating. Momma’s illness over the past couple of years had trained me to think of my family first and me, well, never. But I had finally met a boy that changed all that and he was many miles away, probably not thinking of me at all.
Sitting there, questioning the existence of true love, I heard soft laughter in the kitchen. I turned to the room behind me, startled because I had thought I was alone. In the soft light of a Christmas candle on the table I saw Momma and Daddy, wrapped in each other’s arms. Slowly they danced, totally enthralled in their love. I slid further into the shadows so my presence would not ruin the scene. I had seen my parents dance like this before, but this time it touched me much more deeply. As I watched them sway slowly I knew that not only does true love exist, but I saw it every time I saw my parents. From the way Daddy cared for her while she was sick to the way Momma smiled at the mere thought of him, I saw proof of true love every day. I sat back, sipped my hot chocolate, and dreamed of a love like that one day.



Over the past month our 13 year old son has taken to running away. I don’t know that there can exist a fear greater than that of a parent who cannot find their child. You don’t know where they are, if they are safe and everything is out of your control. A parent’s most natural state is caring for their child and when that ability is taken – you don’t know what to do. Add that to the fact that this parent deals with anxiety and depression disorders and you have a recipe for a mess on the level of a F5 tornado.
This experience has taught me many things beyond the fact that our son is still dealing with issues from his past before coming to live with us.
First, I learned how the church is truly the hands and feet of Jesus. I cannot begin to say enough about the love and support we experienced from members of our church – some we didn’t even know well. I can’t tell you how many people were out looking for him. Staff members, youth group members, our Sunday School class members and other various church friends were all out combing our community. Others provided meals for us or simply kept me talking so I could avoid a panic attack. One created a missing person poster and then Facebook exploded with it. They also cried and prayed with us.
That support did not end when he was found. Instead, they have strengthened their connection with us to provide support as we repair trust and face his past together. When my son had to appear in court my husband and I were joined by a minister from our church and a friend. They were there to support our son as much as to support us. They helped us come up with plans for some new family dynamics.
Second, I have gained a new understanding of the story of the Prodigal Son. In my past I have had times when I sympathized with both the Prodigal and the brother. However, this taught me the viewpoint of the father. Luke 15:20-21 tells us, “But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and felt compassion, and ran and embraced him and kissed him” (ESV). I remember wondering at this. How could the father simply forgive the sins of the son? How is he not furious? He has been disrespected, embarrassed and shamed. Where is the son’s punishment?
I realize now that those feelings all took a far back seat to the gratefulness he felt to have his son home where he was safe. The other feelings could be handled later. Consequences would have their time. Right now the dominant feelings were joy and relief. The father goes on to say to his servants “‘Bring quickly the best robe, and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand, and shoes on his feet. And bring the fattened calf and kill it, and let us eat and celebrate. For this my son was dead, and is alive again; he was lost, and is found.’ And they began to celebrate” (Luke 15:22-24 ESV). While we didn’t necessarily throw a party, we did head to my in-laws’ house for an early Thanksgiving dinner. That was the most joyous dinner of my life. I found myself simply looking at him or walking past and touching him. I knew consequences would come, but we could face them together as long as he was here.
Third, I think I caught a tiny glimpse of God’s heart. In the morning of the day he was found I was alone in the quiet for a few minutes. I started crying out to God that my son was hurting and I couldn’t help. Did He understand what I was going through? Did He even care? While the response wasn’t audible, it felt like it could have been. I heard God say “Yes, I care. I am crying with you. Yes, I know exactly what you are going through. I have been there. My Son hurt with the pain and sin of the entire world – past, present and future. It hurt me so badly I had to turn away. I couldn’t bear to look at it.” Wow.
Later that day my husband and I were talking about how our son keeps acting out in different ways. After a moment of thought my husband made a comparison between that behavior and humans rejecting God repeatedly. How we must break His heart! Yet he welcomes us back, kills the fatted calf and brings us back into the home as a son, not a servant. But then we go and do it again! And so does He! There is nothing we can do to make Him not love us. There is no number of times He will take us back. He will not always save us from the consequences of our actions, but He will walk with us through them.